bean counter not updating - When your ex is dating someone new
My thinking is that it doesn’t tend to “make or break” a situation in the long run.
In the early days and weeks the emotions tend to be raw and how you feel at three days or three weeks is often not how you’ll feel after three months or three years. I find that mostly our urge to write them is when we are angry, or sad or hurt (or any of the more negative emotions) when in fact we’d often be better waiting until we’re in a better state of mind before we put pen to paper.
What are you hoping to achieve from this prose you’re sending? Are you really gonna let him or her have a real piece of your mind?
When a relationship ends there are usually a number of things you want to say, after the fact, but often when I’ve written the letter (or email) it’s not really made a difference.
If it did result in reconciliation it seldom lasted long.
If you are sending a letter (or an email) to an ex with no hope for reconciliation, no expectation for response, and with a view of letting go, and moving on I say go ahead and “go for it”.